Quick Guide to Becoming a Good Kisser

May 7, 2015

Being good at kissing is not necessarily something one gets instructions or a handy guide in. But there’s plenty that science has to share to help you perform well in this area. Here are some tips to be a success at kissing.

  1. Observe proper hygiene. No one wants to kiss a guy who seems alien to the idea of flossing, toothbrushing, and using mouthwash, right?

  2. Get close. Your proximity will help dispel remaining traces of nervousness, awkwardness, and worries about where to take it from the kiss, particularly if it’s the first time. Of course, this entails a certain level of trust and knowing each other, so act according to how you two currently are.

  3.  “Listen” to the way your lady is kissing. This means matching her tempo and going by the action of her tongue. It’s good to lead her and be a sexy aggressor, but learn to be a good listener and avoid being oblivious of her needs.

  4. Be gentle. Don’t kiss her as if you’ve been deprived of it for a whole millennium. Employ a certain tenderness and she’ll definitely appreciate it.

  5. Allow her to breathe. It’s about kissing and getting cozy and passionate for her, not being suffocated!

  6. Avoid jamming your tongue down her throat. A frequent complaint among the female population, this act is no longer ideal and can actually cause physical pain and discomfort.

  7. Set the right context. Make sure you’re bonding well at the moment and the whole mood is conducive to intimacy and touching. Kiss her at the right time, place, and occasion – if it feels right, it probably is.

  8. Learn her preferences. Get to know what she likes and dislikes about kissing. It won’t hurt to downright ask or get cues from her own movements and signals.

  9. Avoid being mechanical or repetitive. Introduce variations in kissing. Explore her neck and ears, move from her upper to lower lip, and just generally be creative and engaging.

  10. Look into her eyes. It’s fine (and in fact recommended) to keep your eyes closed while kissing her. But right afterwards, thank her for it by making good eye contact. It’s a sign telling her that you enjoyed it and likely open to doing more.